The less radical approaches would certainly make it easier to fit into the occasion social situation and family gatherings. Anyone who thinks this is unimportant just doesn't understand the powerful and important role that culture, community, and family play in our lives.
Well, off my soap box and back to zero carb,
Lex
I would like to bring this quote of Lex in a different light (I do not agree with Charles on a few "topics" but this I do agree with!):
RE: Real life happens - And it's possible to survive
Real life? That wasn't real life. That was you giving in to an addiction that you have not shaken yet. There is so much more to life than food.
Oh, come one now. That happened well for you. That doesn't mean it would happen that way for anyone else. We're all insulin resistant to differing degress and we all have differing carb tolerances. It's possible that another person eating the same foods could gain 10 pounds. I have gained more than 2 pounds eating far less than what you did.
I'm glad you were able to return to your way of eating but this is a little much, don't you think?
Not only that, but this is about so much more than weight loss. Weight is minor compared to the other diseases of civilization. Carbs do their damage on the cellular level. It's impossible to know the effect of your binge on your cells and was therefore dangerous. The "little bit won't hurt" mentality has doomed many a dieter. Weight gain should be the last marker for health.
It's possible to be overweight and have a long healthy life. However, most of the other symptoms of metabolic syndrom are not at all as forgiving.
I realize my post came across as harsh and I take full responsiblity for that and I've apologized privately to Zyarah for the tone.
However, this was not the situation where a person is caught at an event and there is nothing to eat. She chose this particular situation and had no intention to find healthy alternatives.
For the record, I really don't have a problem with that. Some may not believe it, but it's really true. What I have a problem with is not looking at something for what it is. This was not an accidental "go off plan" type of thing or the situation where we find ourselves at a company picnic and there is nothing to eat and we're starving.
This situation was, "I knew this was coming up", "I chose to eat what was provided." It was a "real life" decision but it was not an accident. That's the part I took issue with. If I choose to eat carbohydrates then I will do just that but I will not come on here and label my choice, "life happens" because that would be inaccurate. I would call it, "I did what I wanted to do and now I'm getting back to work."
Food isn't something that just "happens" to us. We happen to food. If this is not your experience, then perhaps it should be.
No one is expecting perfection and readers of my posts know full well that I don't see things that way. In fact, I've written often that eating off plan is actually part of the plan. This is the only way for us to know that our particular plan really works. Your body will remember how good it felt when you ate healthy. When you eat unhealthy, your body lets you know and this keeps you from doing it again, simply because you don't want to go through the trouble of starting again.
As LindaSue posted, there were some healthy alternatives available there that she could have availed herself of but that was never her intent. If she would have just said, I ate what I wanted without concern for my diet because I wanted to, then I would have never commented because of course, that's her decision and her right to do that.
Just don't call it "real life happens" as if it was an unavoidable circumstance that should be excused. We have to be honest with ourselves about the choices we make and call them accordingly.
There is nothing wrong with someone choosing to eat pizza or anything else. Just don't look to justify your choice by saying "it could happen to anyone."
The other question I would like for you all to consider is the point that Con brought up and that is, what if you were sick (or at least perceived yourself to be sick)? If you were a diabetic and could only eat certain foods, would this change your opinion and your actions when eating within a group? No one has to answer this question, but it's worth it to ponder.
Should diabetics or heart patients only remain at home since they're abnormal and eat steak or can they actually be social within the societal context? Would those friends and relatives respond with contempt when the diabetic informed them they could not eat the prepared food?
I believe that if we perceive ourselves to be "normal" then the battle to manage our health is that much harder. I don't believe that I am normal, despite the way I look. It's because I feel I'm abnormal, that makes me choose what I do. This abnormality does not keep me from functioning within society or attending whatever social function I choose to.
Perception is a fair question because it is actually more likely that we will get diabetes or cancer than we will get fat. I read yesterday that 1 in 2 men will get cancer in their lifetime. Diabetics are far more likely to get cancer than non-diabetics. However, only 1 in 5 Americans are obese (my apologies to our international visitors -- I don't know your stats). As I've said many times, only the lucky ones get fat.
For myself, this rules the day and it's not about being snobbish or elite. It's about safeguarding my health and dealing with the likelihood that I'm contributing to my chances for a far worse fate than obesity.
This is the passion that I write with. It has absolutely nothing to do with any of your waistlines. I honestly don't care what any of you weigh. However, I do care that you are getting healthier and I want you to do know that our likelihood of manifesting other symptoms of the diseases of civilization is much higher than our chances of getting obese. That's the part that should make us hesitate when making the decisions concerning what we eat.
There is no right or wrong here but there is consequence and it extends beyond the scale.
I think we need to redefine the word "normal". Why is it that we "have" to have wedding cake at a wedding? I would think a bride could do whatever she wanted; after all, it is her day......What we need is to have more imagination. As our health improves I'm really looking forward to this grass-roots movement really making a change in our world. Imagine if everyone just went with the status quo. What kind of world would that be? None that I would want to live in, that's for sure. Despite my hyperinsulinemia, I feel as though I can go anywhere and do anything. In fact, I try to do just that.
Some of you speak of your "plan" as a death sentence. Because you're on "plan" you can't live. But you would agree that remaining off plan brings misery. It doesn't really matter what some people can or can't do, it really only matters what you can or can't do. If we are the ones with the issue, then it's up to us to determine how we actually live our lives.
Come on, folks. Let's use our imagination. I'm sure we can come up with better solutions than just A or B.
Maybe you should stop trying to explain and convince. I don't try to convince anyone of anything with the choices I make. I make choices for myself, not for others. Do you think I explain zero-carb to someone every day? I assure you, I do not. Most people could care less.
If your dbf's mother knew that you were diabetic and she was giving you sugar, do you think she would be happy to know that and you didn't even bother to tell her? This isn't about others, it's about you.
This situation will never improve for you unless you come to grips with the fact that this has absolutely nothing to do with other people. The battle lies inside your mind and in your body. Nowhere else. When you have a pimple, you think everyone in the world is looking at it. The truth is, people notice but it's truly not a big deal. Many people in this world of ours require accomodations. People are used to that. It's unusual to find too many people not taking medicine or some kind.
Stop thinking that everyone besides you is so "normal." It's not normal for children to be obese and have diabetes. It's not normal for people to die of cancer and heart disease. It's only normal when you eat according to the way all other sick people eat.
It is indeed abnormal to buck the trend and go against the status quo, but you'll be much the better in the long run.
This is part and parcel of the problem. Why is food such an integral part of these "special occasions?" These psychological connections are directly related to diet and the narcotic nature of sugar is directly to blame. When we go to movies, sporting events, birthdays, holidays, promotions, afterwork socials, or just because someone decided to bless the office with a pan of cupcakes, there is always an excuse to eat unhealthy food. Drug users report the same connections to their activities. They need their drugs to "wake up" in the morning.
I am glad to report that I can attend "special occasions" without regard to what food will be served. It is purely irrelevant to me. I can freely enjoy the company, the conversation, the experience of being in the place, and I have possibilities to explore with all the free time. I feel no awkwardness at not eating unhealthy food as a lemming just following the crowd.
Lex don't you feel off in your mind and body; I could not rest at night after a SAD binge! The next day I would have high suger, which would make me "
(", I would not be able to eat, I would not feel right with all that weight and my digestion would be in a mess. What about all that food that the body is not used to; do you think it can digest that?
No, I like peace of mind; life is all about cleaning up and finding our path - go of track, get on track!
It's not worth it; why can't we be with out having to eat our way threw social and normal days? The sheep eat grass at Christmas and in the rain.
Nicola