Off Topic / Re: Living in the wild
« on: November 05, 2010, 11:53:16 pm »Being confined by force in a closed, exclusive and jealous relationship is a love killing situation.Is it possible that marriage, much like optimal diet, is different for everyone?
I believe you've mentioned before that you are divorced Francois. It's quite possible that this experience has defined your ideas of what is good and what is bad in a relationship. This is not to say that your particular experience must therefore preclude marriage from other peoples viable ways to express there love for each other.
Marriage is a neolithic convention. I do not believe monogamy is solely a neolithic invention. I believe the paleo era had monogamous and polygamous relationships and both can work.
For the record I have been married for two years myself. There are times where my wife is a difficult woman to live with, as I can be difficult for her, but I feel our union is beneficial to the both of us. We both have a best friend, confidant, support base, and sexual partner who we know will be there for us when we need them. I am not so naive to believe that this would continue growing stronger, as it has since we first met, without lots of work and compromise. Nor am I so naive to believe that marriage will always work out between two people. I do believe it's an incredibly strong bond when nurtured by two people who belong together and I fully expect us to spend our lives together much the same as my parents have through all of their internal & external hardships (30 years in the spring).